1. Whenever you set surprising plans. I have to have my schedule mapped out forward of time. I need to know what I’m doing weeks upfront — or not less than twenty-four hours upfront. If you happen to change our plans on the final second, or ask me to hang around proper now with out warning me forward of time, you then most likely received’t see me. The shock goes to be an excessive amount of for me to deal with.
2. Any kind of socializing. You would possibly contemplate public talking fully totally different than making a telephone name to order pizza or asking the waitress for extra ketchup — however for me, it’s just about the identical. Texting somebody goes to make me simply as uncomfortable as standing in entrance of a crowd. Regardless that the extent of interplay is perhaps small, it’s nonetheless going to really feel like an enormous deal to me.
3. Uncertainty. Uncertainty of any type makes me uncomfortable. Earlier than I comply with go anyplace, I would like as a lot info as potential. What ought to I put on? What does the parking scenario appear to be? How early ought to I get there? What time is it going to be over? If I don’t know what to anticipate, I’m going to run via 1,000,000 totally different situations and get upset about 1,000,000 various things that most likely aren’t even related.
4. Whenever you break the foundations. Since I hate unpredictability, I hate when individuals break the foundations — particularly since I’m by no means going to do the identical. When there are guidelines, I do know what to anticipate. I can plan forward. I do know what to do. However when somebody goes off script, I don’t know what to anticipate — and I’m not nice at considering on my ft.
5. Whenever you make a mistake. I need different individuals to love me, so I’m by no means going to level out once they harm my emotions. I’m by no means going to inform the hairdresser or the nail technician that the fashion isn’t proper. I’m going to reside with no matter occurs, even when it makes me depressing. I keep away from battle, even when it’s miniscule.
6. Whenever you change the plans on the final second. I’ve to arrange myself for social conditions. If we’re heading to a restaurant, I’m going to search for the menu forward of time to choose my meals, and I’m going to search for instructions, so I do know the place to drive. Altering the assembly spot on the final second won’t be an enormous deal to you, nevertheless it throws me off fully.
7. Whenever you level out my nervousness. I’m not snobby or shy or quiet. I simply want some time to get warmed as much as new individuals. And when you begin teasing me about how quiet I’m, I’m by no means going to heat as much as you. I’m going to need nothing to do with you.
8. Falling asleep to silence. I don’t love when my environment are too loud — however I don’t love full silence, both. I have to have one thing on within the background so as to go to sleep at evening. In any other case, my thoughts goes to float to darkish locations. I have to maintain myself distracted, so I don’t overwhelm myself with what-ifs. 